My thoughts on Dowry System

Well, there are lot of debates going on regarding dowry. I am not here to tell whether taking dowry is good or bad but to purely express my opinion. In my view, marriage is the bonding of two hearts.Money should never come between this pure relationship. I have heard boy’s parents telling we have spent money for his education, job n blah blah blah. Parents must give the education for their kid to become independent and well civilised citizen by imbibing good morals. They must educate their kid without any expectations and they should never see their kids like commodities and trying to sell them for good price. Marriage is for lifetime. In my opinion, all the girls parents definitely want to see their daughters happy and they will do their best to fulfil her dreams. When money takes first place and relationship takes backseat then the problem starts. In some forum I read a comment wherein a guy said “I am earning more n my would be wife is earning less, as everyone asks for equal right l want my wife to give me dowry so that we will be equal economically..lol.What a stupid thought!. What if tomorrow his wife gets promotion and she earns more than him. Will he give the dowry to her n do the household things n also take care of her family as she used to do for his family?. Life is very uncertain. We must be happy in whatever we have and should not calculate everything in terms of money. Now we must look at the other side of the coin also. There are some selfish girls too.I am strongly against the girls who misuse the dowry law just because their wishes are not fulfilled. I know some girls who marry NRIs with the dream of having a Hi-Fi Lifestyle and when the reality bites they want to take revenge. In life nothing will come easily. If they are so desperate to fulfil their dreams they must work hard by themselves or if housewife then at least she can give support and encouragement to her husband. There are some cases where the girls parents demand everything from guy’s side once they come to know that the guy has fallen into their trap. It is very sad to see some guys being emotionally blackmailed from their wives and in laws and unable to do anything fearing the law. I am happy that in my house my parents never encouraged this evil system during my brother's and my marriage.I had strictly told my parents that I will never marry a guy who values dowry more than me and today I am happy and fortunate to marry a wonderful guy who never demanded anything from my parents. I have a great respect for him in my heart.

I hope very soon people will realise that LOVE between two souls weighs a lot more than Money and the word "Dowry" itself will vanish.