My thoughts on Dowry System

Well, there are lot of debates going on regarding dowry. I am not here to tell whether taking dowry is good or bad but to purely express my opinion. In my view, marriage is the bonding of two hearts.Money should never come between this pure relationship. I have heard boy’s parents telling we have spent money for his education, job n blah blah blah. Parents must give the education for their kid to become independent and well civilised citizen by imbibing good morals. They must educate their kid without any expectations and they should never see their kids like commodities and trying to sell them for good price. Marriage is for lifetime. In my opinion, all the girls parents definitely want to see their daughters happy and they will do their best to fulfil her dreams. When money takes first place and relationship takes backseat then the problem starts. In some forum I read a comment wherein a guy said “I am earning more n my would be wife is earning less, as everyone asks for equal right l want my wife to give me dowry so that we will be equal economically..lol.What a stupid thought!. What if tomorrow his wife gets promotion and she earns more than him. Will he give the dowry to her n do the household things n also take care of her family as she used to do for his family?. Life is very uncertain. We must be happy in whatever we have and should not calculate everything in terms of money. Now we must look at the other side of the coin also. There are some selfish girls too.I am strongly against the girls who misuse the dowry law just because their wishes are not fulfilled. I know some girls who marry NRIs with the dream of having a Hi-Fi Lifestyle and when the reality bites they want to take revenge. In life nothing will come easily. If they are so desperate to fulfil their dreams they must work hard by themselves or if housewife then at least she can give support and encouragement to her husband. There are some cases where the girls parents demand everything from guy’s side once they come to know that the guy has fallen into their trap. It is very sad to see some guys being emotionally blackmailed from their wives and in laws and unable to do anything fearing the law. I am happy that in my house my parents never encouraged this evil system during my brother's and my marriage.I had strictly told my parents that I will never marry a guy who values dowry more than me and today I am happy and fortunate to marry a wonderful guy who never demanded anything from my parents. I have a great respect for him in my heart.

I hope very soon people will realise that LOVE between two souls weighs a lot more than Money and the word "Dowry" itself will vanish.

ಬೀದಿ ಮಕ್ಕಳು, ಸಾರ್!!!!

ಬೀದಿ ಮಕ್ಕಳು ಸಾರ್, ನಾವು ಬೀದಿ ಮಕ್ಕಳು
ಹೆತ್ತವರ ಪ್ರೀತಿಯಿಂದ ವಂಚಿತರಾದ ನಾವು ಅನಾಥರೂ ಹೌದು!

ನೋಡಿದೊಡನೆ ಕಾಣುವ ನಮ್ಮ ಬಂತೆ ಕಟ್ಟಿದ ಕೂದಲು
ಮಾನ ಮುಚ್ಚಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಹಾಕಿದ ಕೊಳೆಗಟ್ಟಿದ, ಹರುಕು ಬಟ್ಟೆಗಳು,
ಚುರುಗುಟ್ಟುವ ಬಿಸಿಲಿಗೆ ಕಪ್ಪುಗಟ್ಟಿದ ಮುಖಗಳು,
ಇವೆ, ನಮ್ಮ ಲಕ್ಷಣಗಳು!

ಬೆಳಗಿಂದ ಬೀದಿ ಬೀದಿ ಸುತ್ತಾಡಿ, ಸುಸ್ತಾಗಿ
ತಿನ್ನಲು ಏನು ಸಿಗದೆ ಕಂಗಾಲಾಗಿವೆ ನೂರಾರು ಹಸಿದ ಹೊಟ್ಟೆಗಳು,
"ಬಾಲ ಕಾರ್ಮಿಕ ಪದ್ಧತಿ" ನಿರ್ಮೂಲನೆಯಿಂದ ಕೆಲಸವಿಲ್ಲದೆ,
ಖಾಲಿ ಹೊಟ್ಟೆಯ ತುಂಬಲು ಕಸದತೊಟ್ಟಿಯಲಿ ಏನಾದರು ಸಿಗುವುದೆ
ಎಂದು ಹುಡುಕುತಿವೆ ನಮ್ಮ ಓರಟು ಕೈಗಳು,
ಸಿಕ್ಕಿದ್ದನ್ನೆಲ್ಲ ತಿಂದು, ಅಸ್ವಸ್ಥಗೊಂಡು
ಶ್ರಿಮಂತ ಹೊಟ್ಟೆಬಾಕರ ಮನೆಯ ನಾಯಿಯ ಅದ್ರುಷ್ಟವೂ ನಮಗಿಲ್ಲದೆ
ದಿನ ನಿತ್ಯ ಸಾಯುತ್ತಿರುವ ನಾವುಗಳು
ಬೀದಿ ಮಕ್ಕಳು ಸಾರ್, ನಾವು ಬೀದಿ ಮಕ್ಕಳು

ನಮ್ಮ ಮುಗ್ಧ ಮನಸನ್ನೆ ಬಂಡವಾಳವನ್ನಾಗಿಸಿಕೊಂಡು
ಭಿಕ್ಷೆಗೆ,ವೇಶ್ಯವಾಟಿಕೆಗೆ ನಮ್ಮ ತಳ್ಳಿ, ತಮ್ಮ ಕೈ ಬೆಚ್ಚಗಾಗಿಸಿಕೊಳ್ಳುವ ದುಷ್ಕರ್ಮಿಗಳು
ನಮ್ಮ ಹೆಸರನ್ನೇಳಿ ಹಣ ನುಂಗುವ ಸೇವ ಸಂಸ್ಥೆಗಳು..
ನಾವು ಬಡ ಮಕ್ಕಳಾಗಿ ಹುಟ್ಟಿದ್ದೇ ನಮ್ಮ ತಪ್ಪೆಂಬಂತೆ
ಚಿ, ಥೂ ಎಂದು ಮೂದಲಿಸುವ ಜನರು..
ಈ ನರಕದಲ್ಲೂ "ನಮಗೂ ಬದುಕುವ ಹಕ್ಕಿದೆ" ಎಂದು ಹೊರಾಡುತ್ತಿರುವ
ನಾವು ಬೀದಿ ಮಕ್ಕಳು ಸಾರ್, ನಾವು ಬೀದಿ ಮಕ್ಕಳು.

ನಮಗೆ ಬೇಕಾಗಿರುವುದು ಸಹಾಯವಲ್ಲ, ಅವಕಾಶವು
ವಿದ್ಯಾಭ್ಯಾಸ ಮತ್ತು ಎಲ್ಲರಂತೆ ಬದುಕಲು ಆವಕಾಶ ಸಿಕ್ಕರೆ
ನಾವೂ ಸಾಧಿಸಿ ತೊರಿಸುವೆವು
ನಮ್ಮನ್ನೂ ಬದುಕಲು ಬಿಡಿ ಎನ್ನುತಿಯೆವು!!!..

ಚಲವಂತರು ನಾವು ಗಟ್ಟಿಗರು
ಬೀದಿ ಮಕ್ಕಳು ಸಾರ್, ನಾವು ಬೀದಿ ಮಕ್ಕಳು

ಪ್ರೀತಿಗಾಗಿ (Preethigaagi)

ಓ ನಲ್ಲ,ನೀನೆಂದು ಬರುವೆ??..

ಮಂದಹಾಸದ ರತ್ನಗಂಬಳಿ ಹಾಸಿ
ನಿನಗಾಗಿ ನಾನು ಕಾದಿರುವೆ...
ವಿರಹದ ಬೆಂಕಿಯಲಿ ಅನುಕ್ಷಣವು
ಬೇಯುತಿರುವೆ.

ಪ್ರತಿನಿತ್ಯ ಸೂರ್ಯ ಮರೆಯಾಗುತ್ತ ಚೆಲ್ಲುವ ಬಣ್ಣದ
ಓಕುಳಿ ನೊಡುವೆ
ನೀ ಬರುವ ದಿನ ಹತ್ತಿರ ಬರುತಿಹುದೆಂದು ಸಂಭ್ರಮಿಸುವೆ...

ನಿನ್ನ ಪ್ರೀತಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ಕುಡಿಯೊಡೆದಿರುವ ನೂರಾರು ಹೊಸ ಹೊಸ ಕನಸುಗಳಿವೆ
ಆ ಕನಸುಗಳು ಮನಸಿಗೆ, "ನೀನೆಲ್ಲಿದ್ದರೂ ನನ್ನವನೆಂದು" ಹೇಳುತಿವೆ..

ನಲ್ಲ,ಆ ನಂಬಿಕೆಯಲ್ಲೆ ನಿನಗಾಗಿ ನಾನು ಜೀವಿಸುವೆ!

ನಿನಗಾಗಿ ನಿನ್ನ ಪ್ರೀತಿಗಾಗಿ ನಾನೆದೆಂದಿಗು ಕಾಯುತಲೆ ಇರುವೆ..

"Whats in a NAME???"

Recently, i boarded a BTS bus from shivajinagar bus stop..I was the only person standing in the whole bus and it was a bit embarrassing.For my luck,one small cute girl offered me a seat next to her by adjusting along with her mom as there was place only for two ppl (Cho chweeet of her!!!!)..I think that girl was just around 7-8 years..For sometime, she was munching on some chocolates and some snacks given by her mom.After finishing the chocolates, she started asking a lot of questions on whatever she was seeing out of the window with her small curious eyes.I could understand only bits and pieces as the girl was conversing with her mom in Urdu.. Eventhough i couldnot understand much, i was enjoying her innocent questions and her sweet voice ...

After sometime suddenly,she asked her mom about a baby by name "Ismail"..she asked her mom why did they name the kid "Ismail" and also wanted to know the meaning of that name..Her mom struggled a bit and then told "Beta,Ismail is just a name to identify a person and it has got no meaning"..The kid disagreed and she told she knows the meaning..I was also a bit surprised and wanted to know how she knew the meaning??..when her mom asked the meaning, she told that her neighbour tells "Ismail","Ismail" ('i.e., smile) before clicking her photo and whenever he tells that, she has to give a broad smile.. so she told "Ismail" means to laugh whenever there is a photo session!!! and she also told she felt funny when the kid was named "Ismail"...I couldnot control my laugh when i heard this..Isn't it so amzing to see how these small kids grasp things and relate it!!.. :))

Strange world with Strangers!

Imagine you are returning from your work or college and suddenly a stranger appears from nowhere and he starts talking to u by introducing himself!!!..U may do one of these--You may think that he has gone crazy and u will try to avoid him or u may get scared and u look around to call someone for help or u may end up making friendship with him..I myself have come across this situation many times..Surprisingly, those guys talk as if they know u from many years..In my case, all these guys wanted my friendship..First time when it happened i was really scared and i was struggling to talk and fumbling for words ..Now,i just ignore and frankly tell 'no' to those Guys with a broad smile.But,it made me think, why are these people are so desperate for making friendship with strangers?.I feel one of the reason is, they are from different state and are new to this place so they would have started acquainting people ..As i haven't done any research on this i really don't know the answer..lol..whatever may b the answer I believe as long as those guys really mean that they are looking for a true friendship then its fine..But the problem here is, no one can judge a person just by listening to his sugar coated words he tells while making friendship..Many times we get cheated from our very own friends so, how can we trust a stranger???..I am not against making friendship with strangers but, i feel that as its the matter of friendship, one should be very careful while choosing their friends especially when it's a new friendship with a stranger otherwise it will leave u emotionally disturbed for a very very long time..Don't panic or get scared when u come across this situation..If u don't want to do friendship with a stranger be frank and tell a big "No" and go on with your life!!!..

Boy and Jamoon!

This happened two days back.I was having lunch with two of my batchmates in one of the fast food center,when Suddenly a small boy around 9-10 years popped in front of us from nowhere and asked us to buy him an icecream.I was surprised at first, as usually people come and ask for money in those places but this guy was asking for icecream!!!..May be he was tempted seeing lots of college girls enjoying their ice creams in the nearby ice-cream parlour and his human instincts (out of control,offcourse) forced him to come and ask us..Eventhough my heart told me to buy him one,my mind told him to buy him something that fills his stomach..so i told him,"i will not buy u ice-cream,instead u choose whatever u want from the menu that fills ur stomach n i will get u that"..He honestly told "NO,i dont want..i want icecream"..Then i became a bit angry and i told him i will not buy him..For 2-3 min he was not to be seen.Once again he appeared and this time he asked me "akka,atleast juice"..As i was stuck to my previous decision,i blindly told him "i am not gonna change my decision,so no juice also".I was just thinking can't this young boy eat some good food so that he will not feel hungry for atleast 3-4 hours,instead of some icecream which is of no use.Just a min after that i really felt bad for what i did...We are human beings,and its our tendency to like something that we dont get whenever we wish for it...so we always try to have it or atleast dream about having it..That boy looked like an orphan and may be if his parents were there, he would not have begged us to get him what he wanted like this..That boy was somewhere confident that we are going to buy something for him so, he was just wandering around us.As i had ordered for jamoon,i called him and asked him whether he would like to have jamoon..oh my god,he was so happy and told "yes akka,i would love to have it"..I gave him the plate with two jamoons.He took the plate with his glowing face ..No need to say,i also felt very happy seeing him enjoying yummy jamoons!!!

Bengalooru....y so dirty???

Today while coming back home i was just passing time looking out of the window in bus.I was disrupted by a plastic bag filled with air inside it trying to run with the wind.As i watched it disappear, i happened to see a lot of plastic bags,unwanted bottles,papers thrown almost everywhere.Even the drainage that is built in-between the roads for rain water flow had become roadside shop keeper's unofficial "USE ME" leading to clogged drains.As I observed, people were busy filling up every possible place with waste and some people were even spitting just next to them...For sometime i felt as if i was sitting inside a dustbin..

People are becoming so careless about their city.For instance,on the occasion of "Virat Hindu Samavesha" that happened nearby to my place in hosur road, young enthusiastic volunteers had decorated whole bangalore with orange coloured plastic banners and flags..They took many days to tie all these banners and posters to propagate this event..Now the 'samavesha' is over, but the flags n torn banners are still there infact on road,trees,vehicles,lakes flying almost everywhere.No one is bothered about removing them..It is so surprising that educated people are doing this!!!...Everyone wants a shortcut to get rid of the waste and the place to throw this is-> any place which is already littered by others..Even if our government takes initiative to clean-up our garden city (i still dont wanna name it as garbage city), i am sure it will take years..

Let us not follow others and wait for the government to take the initiative..Let us try our best to keep our city clean in whatever way we could and make it a comfortable n healthy place to live..Live n Let live!!!

Zidane Vs Italy

For the first time in my whole life, i watched the football worldcup final live on TV yesterday night along with my mom and brother.Actually i caught the football fever only this year but really enjoyed all the matches i watched.I should admit that the final match b/w Italy and France was a great match but the team i was cheering for i.e.,France lost [;( ].According to me,the first half was not very exciting eventhough both the teams scored one goal each but second half made me stick to the TV screen as both teams were in high spirits but unlike first half, France was very fierce and attacking and Italy was in defending mood in the second half.

The most shocking moment in the match was when Zidane got the red card during extra time for head butting opponent Marco Materazzi.It was very disappointing to see Zidane's dismissal.I really wonder, what made Zidane who is known for his graceful and cool play to take this extreme step and why did he ruin his farewell and disappoint his fans in the final match of his career.May be i think he was provoked by the argument he had with Macro Materazzi.But it definitely proved that human emotions are unpredictable no matter who you are.Well,after the exit of Zidane there was lack of confidence and team spirit in France team.When the match had to be decided on penalty showdown i was sure that without Zidane France will definitely loose.After all, its a match and one has to win over the other.There is absolutely no doubt that the best team will win .In this match it was Italy ;)

Snooring???...nahhh..sshhh

My cousin has a habit of snooring and talking in the night, sometimes in the afternoon too.To my surprise he talks only about cricket.One day in the midnight he suddenly started shouting(may be on fielders who were misfielding *he he he*) and suddenly everyone in the house got up thinking someone is breaking into the house.The funniest part is that,if we tell him that he was talking in his sleep or snooring he will not beleive and he thinks that we are bluffing.Recently, we got a chance to show him the truth with proof. He was having a mid-day nap and he was snooring loudly,myself and my bro got an idea and we started recording his snoors in the mobile.When we were still recording he suddenly got up and realised what we were doing.He was shocked to see what was happening.We stopped recording and we both were literaly on the floor rolling all over the house in laughter listening to his snoors on mobile and my cousin was really pissed off and hurt seeing us.

Eventhough i laughed, felt very bad for what I did and deleted that recording.Still,he is so angry on us that he has stoped taking his mid-day naps.

okie i have got one more snooring story to tell..

One of my Dad's friend works in police department.As he a had a very tiring day he went to his brothers house near to the station to take some rest.After chating for a while, he went to the room in the upstairs to sleep and within minutes he was fast asleep and he started snooring..In the evening his niece came back from school and she went upstairs to play there.Suddenly she heard a strange noise coming from that room.Without a clue and with curiosity she opened the rooms door and the snooring sound increased echoing all over the room.She was terrified thinking it was a ghost and she screamed and fainted itseems.Because of that shock, she had fever for two days even after her parents told that it was her Uncle.. And, it took her some months to step into that room again.

As a matter of fact,i too was scared hearing his snoors for the first time, when we went for a family trip together.So u can imagine the condition of that small girl..he he

10 Rupees!!!

Recently i took an Auto from Garuda mall to St.Jones.When the autowalla started, the meter showed 10 Rs.When I reached St.Johns the meter charge was 28 bucks so i gave him 30 as minimum charge was 12 and he had started off with 10 Rs.But to my surprise he started asking 10 Rs more.I was a bit confused.I checked the meter again and it showed exactly 28.I argued with him that it is exactly 30 if the minimum charge is 12.Dont know what logic he was using, he just went on asking me to give him 10 more Rs.As i was in a hurry and was in no mood to fight i gave him 40 bucks eventough i knew that he was cheating me.when i got into the bus my consious was telling me that i did a wrong thing by giving up.My mind was spinning with a lot of ways that i would have handled the situation.I really got angry on myself as many times i let go things like this and i know that by doing this i am encouraging ppl like him.This is not the first time i have experienced this.According to me out of 10 people, 6 belong to this category.There are some auto drivers who are of helping nature, they help u when u are in trouble and they do not demand anything extra and sometimes they refuse to take even when u give them.I respect those people.Eventhough it is a matter of 10 bucks i felt that if i would have given that money to someone who really needs it like a disabled person it would have made a big difference to him atleast for that day.I really dont know how much he would have earned like this by cheating ppl.As a person who respect money i have realised my stupidity and have decided not to give up next time when i face this situation.

Evergreen Trees!!!

Next to my house and besides the main road there are two big Banyan trees,they are called twin trees.I can see them whenever i open my room's window.They are like my immideate neighbors *he he he*.Every morning i get up hearing the chirping sounds of the birds from those trees.I dont know from how long these trees are there but i am sure that they are very old.My mom always tells that she used to sit and relax under the shades of these trees along with her friends in her school days.I used to play aroud them when i was small and whenever i was bored i used to pester my mom to put the rope-swing hanging from those trees and i used to enjoy my swinging along with my friends. Lot of birds and squirrels nest in these trees and in spring season its a favorite place for monkeys too, as they like to eat the small red fruits from thees trees..

After two or three days these trees will be cut in the name of widening roads.I will surely miss them every morning.As i imagined my day without these trees i felt very sad that i cannot see them physically anymore so, i immideatly took the pictures of this trees to see them alive atleast in pictures.

God only knows what will happen to the remaining trees in the near future in the name of infrastructure,good transportation and for other selfish purposes.I am sure the Bangalore's Garden city image will not fit it in few years.We hear only about chopping trees but nowhere we hear about planting trees.I strongly feel that government should take steps to compensate the lose of cutting trees by taking initiative as soon as possible by growing more trees,creating awareness among people about the adverse effects of deforestation and encouraging people to plant more trees.

Radio Mirchi 93.3FM ...Toooo Hot???

Nowadays i am tuned to Radio mirchi 93.3FM....It is aired in Bangalore last month with the punch line "Sakath Hot maga" and already it is very very popular.Some of its programs are Hello bangalore,Bitti ticket,chill maadi.They are playing hot and new popular songs (only hindi and english) 24/7.The programs are very lively and the listeners get the latest news on traffic, city happenings along with many live competations and interviews.Sounds interesting????..

Well, here comes the other side,In Radio mirchi programs the RJ's try their level best to converse in kannada by mixing both english and kannada(in other words, its Kanglish).Eventhough Radio mirchi 93.3 FM is targetting Bangaloreans where 80%+ are kannadigas, not even one kannada song is played till now.Lot of songs are repeated on the same day.Some of its programs like sleevless sarsa and Polee-Pataaki are funny with lot of unnecessary PJs..

All in all,Radio mirchi 93.3FM is a very lively and 24/7 entertainment radio channel one can tune into, when they are bored.It really cheers you up.Being a kannadiga, one thing i really missed listening to Radio mirchi was Kannada songs..Eventhough the channel tries to convey its youth image(Radio mirchi thinks youth=hindi and english) i feel that it should consider all sections of people in bangalore and play some kannada songs too as it plays tamil songs in Chennai and telugu songs in Hyderabad and not to disappoint ppl (like me) who love to listen kannda songs from their favorite channel "Radio Mirchi 93.3FM".